It's true, to a point, that anything that bothers you reveals some sort of weakness in you. If you can figure out how to shore up your own weaknesses, you'll turn out happier, right?
Sure, sure, but it's a lot more satisfying, or easier at least, to get other people or things to change. Sometime in the near future, we hope to have an auto-responder set up here where you can annonymously e-mail advice (tactfully written, or course) to whoever you think could use it.