Get Below the Surface
A dichotomy basically means having only two choices. This is the way many, many people eroneously view the world. Black-white, good-bad, right-wrong, etc., when the choices really include black, white, grey, and color; good, better, best, worse, and bad; right, wrong, terribly wrong, etc.
Take the time to think through your greatest ambitions, pet peeves, and daily evaluations of your world to see if you're guilty of the logical fallacy of over-simplification. If so (and most of us do oversimplify a number of areas of life), a slight adjustment in your thinking can open doors of opportunity and resolve problems that otherwise elude solutions.
You may find it uncomfortable to think carefully. Don't worry, though, this is only because you're not used to it. It will pass with a tiny bit of practice. It takes a bit of time but is well worth the effort. For great ideas on how to make this easy, consider doing pages now and then.
If you just think things but never do anything about them, that's an indication that there's more you could learn about it. If you're busy doing other things--and I mean really making changes or a difference in your life or others'--then you're probably doing fine.
Don't let others define all your choices if you're not comfortable with that. You can take your own stand, even if it's not exactly aligned with "everyone" else's.
For example, you could be a republican who supports greater funding for education. You can be pro-choice and anti-abortion at the same time. Does the end justify the means? Sure, if you consider that the end includes the result of everything you did along the way.